Relationships – ‘the way in which two or more people or things are connected’, as the dictionary defines them – lie at the core of your success, and your failure, both in your entrepreneurial endeavours, and in your life in general. And yet, despite how crucial they are to us being able to realise our dreams, too often we fail to approach them correctly.
We build strategies for our revolution. We work by candlelight, long into the night, to get ‘stuff’ done. But, when it comes to building, and nurturing, our relationships, too often we pay lip service. But you can’t – you mustn’t – pay lip service to your relationships, or they will die (or never come to life in the first place). Relationships, and I learned this early on in our revolution, take work (lots of it) and intention.
I could share the stuff I’ve learned about relationships from others and through experience – and maybe we’ll have that conversation some day, but, this week, I want to bring someone else into our conversation – someone who is an expert on relationships and can offer far richer insights than me.
That person is Michael Roderick – a master connector who understands the dynamics of relationships better than anyone I have ever had the privilege to interact with. A few weeks ago, he and I spoke about the subject of relationships for the best part of an hour. I could have easily spoken to him all day, had his and my schedule allowed, because it was a fascinating, and insightful, conversation.
I recorded what we talked about (you can listen to it here), and I’m glad I did, because now I can share with you what Michael had to say. And you are going to want to hear it, because what he had to say was gold.
We talked about a range of topics, all to do with relationships, and I’ll share the things that stuck most in my mind, and had the most impact on my thinking about relationships (I’ve put timings so you can find those parts quickly, but you should listen to the whole thing, start to finish, because you will find a ton more in there than I’ve listed here).
- Learning Point #1: The keys to the door you need to go through lie in other people’s pockets (starts around 3 mins 55 secs)
- Learning Point #2: People are not ATMs (starts around 6 mins 55 secs)
- Learning Point #3: Questions hold the answers, so ask the right ones (starts around 8 mins)
- Learning Point #4: Don’t get addicted to giving (starts around 11 mins 45secs)
- Learning Point #5: Don’t let your bucket overflow, or run dry, and never forget to feed the fish (starts around 12 mins 30secs)
- Learning Point #6: Get strategic and active – think and do (starts around 16 mins 10secs)
- Learning Point #7: Overcome your asking anxiety (starts around 23 mins 30secs)
- Learning Point #8: Look beyond the things you know and step outside your comfort zone (starts around 32 mins 30secs)
- Learning Point #9: Open yourself up, be vulnerable, and get personal (starts around 44 mins 15secs)
I’m not going to attempt to unpack any of what Michael shared in this conversation, because to do so would almost inevitably detract from the value that lies within. I want to let it settle in my own mind, and maybe use some of those learning points as the basis for some of our future conversations. And, with those future conversations in mind, I’d love to hear from you about what you learned from Michael, so we can revisit that, too – just hit reply and let me know your thoughts.
Once you’re done listening to the conversation I had with Michael, check out his ‘ConnectorCon Conference’ – the Connector’s Connecting Conference – at the ConnectorCon website. And visit Small Pond Enterprises, Michael’s Organisation, to find out more about his work, learn more from him through his articles and blog, or to reach out to him directly. And, finally, follow him on twitter.
Remember, you can listen to the conversation I had with Michael here or, if you are a Live a Big Life member, download a copy and stick it in your iTunes library. Not a member? Find out more here and sign up for your free membership to unlock a ton of benefits – including a download of Michael’s conversation with me – all totally free.