Self Development

I wrote a post, but this isn’t it

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About a week ago, I sat down and wrote a post. A shouty, ranty, pissed off kind of post.

But this isn’t it.

I felt like I had my reasons for being shouty and ranty. It’s been a tough few months. In fact, I’d go as far as to say it’s been a shitty few months. Really shitty. So shitty, in fact, that I finally had enough, and, with Limp Bizkit’s ‘Break Stuff’ blaring in the background, let rip in my journal. A proper spleen-venting session, releasing months of pent-up anger, frustration and disappointment.

And, as my spleen vented, and my fingers pounded the keys, the irony of having spent that day launching a new programme about managing your self-talk – mastering your inner voice so that your negative soundtrack stays firmly in its box – was not lost on me. Nor was the hypocrisy.

But, no matter how ironic, or hypocritical, the battle I was having with my self-talk undoubtedly was, I could not shake the soundtrack blaring in my mind.

A soundtrack that told me I was a failure.

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Find your middle

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Do you spend time wondering if you’re making the right decision, or if you’re in the right place, or if it’s the right time?  I do.

Or, at least I did.

You see, I’ve become convinced that there is no right decision, right place or right time.  Instead, there’s a ‘sweet spot’ – your ‘middle’.

Your ‘middle’ is not about the decision you make, the location or the timing.  It’s all about alignment – aligning your activity with your strengths, skills and passions.

The significance of this hit me when I was chatting with my buddy, Steve.

Steve makes a ruckus wherever he goes.  He’s pioneered a ton of stuff.   He’s inspired others to make a ruckus and to pioneer new things.  And he’s enjoyed some real success.  But now he’s starting a new venture.  And, as he was sharing his ideas and how they lined up with his vision, I realised how Steve’s new venture aligned with his passions, his strengths and his skills in a way the other stuff he had been doing hadn’t.

He was moving into his sweet spot – he was finding his ‘middle’.

I got very excited.

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